It’s okay to ask for help. Reaching out doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you weak or incapable or inadequate. And it doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you someone who has the courage to honor their needs. It makes you honest and proactive and brave. It’s a form of self-care and it’s something that takes a lot of strength. So stop beating yourself up for needing support and start giving yourself permission to take care of yourself. You’re important and you matter, and your wellbeing matters. And if you’re struggling, you deserve to get support.
Take a day to heal from the lies you’ve told yourself and the ones that have been told to you.
You focus on the wrong stuff. It’s true, you are terrible at a lot of things, but there are a couple things that nobody else does as well as you do. It drives me bananas that you will — you will throw yourself away completely because of one or two things that you think about that you think are wrong about you. And that’s what breaks my heart … You gotta ignore those and lean towards the things that make you like yourself. Forget everything else. Fake it. Fake your way upwards.
Being angry means the following things about you:
- You are aware of what happened to you.
- You understand that what happened to you was wrong.
- You do not accept what happened to you.
- You hold the perpetrator(s) responsible for their actions.
- You recognize that you didn’t deserve the abuse.
Being angry does the following things to you:
- Helps you to escape the abuse.
- Helps you not toreturnto the abuse.
- Keeps your body healthier by preventing somatoform symptoms like stomach aches, headaches and ulcers.
- Increases your self-esteem by helping you not to blame yourself.
Some facts about anger:
- It is included in the spectrum of normal human emotions and should always have a place in one’s mind.
- It can’t be erased, only expressed or repressed.
- It rarely leads to bitterness.
- It increases confidence and decreases feelings of fear.
- It’s an important step to healing from trauma.
Go ahead… get pissed!
thank you so much for saying this. no one likes it when i get angry. I’m supposed to be okay with the way i’m treated. “anger just lets them know they win”…. like wtf?? I hate when people tell me to not stand up for myself.
Some basic information about trigger warnings and some testimonials about why trigger warnings are important directly from New College students.
I just whipped this up in the last couple of hours because the FORUM is showing a serious lack of compassion for people who have survived trauma and have mental illnesses.
Pass it around, Novos.
I get to choose who stays relevant in my life
Fuck what anxiety or depression or bipolar or *whatever* is telling you that you can’t do things, or that things won’t change. Mental health stuffs only want to stay in your brain, so what they are telling you is for their benefit- not yours. You can do this. *you can*